Looking Back: Blessings & A Little Controversy

I don’t know about you, but I find that unless I actively take time to reflect on things, the days just start to run together and pretty soon I feel like my life is just a series of (lovingly performed) tasks and routines. In taking time to reflect, I’m able to celebrate my family’s achievements, grieve any losses, recognize our mistakes and make new commitments towards our future. It’s the primary way I make sure I’m growing into the kind of person I want to be, and that my family is growing into the kind of family we want it to be. I’m admittedly fanatic about living deliberately and making the most of our time here, and it’s out of that fanaticism that my Friday feature is born. I don’t have a cutesy name for it just yet, so throw one out if you’ve got an idea. (Thanks in advance!)

Although it has very little to do with me, I’ve got to give praise to Elliott for being a champ and sleeping for at least 5 hours straight these past several nights. One night she even slept for seven hours! At two months old, that’s very rare, and I’m very appreciative. I’m not naive enough to think it will last forever, but I’m really loving it while it lasts. Her natural “bed time” seems to be between 7:30 and 8:00 PM, at which point we’ll swaddle her, I’ll feed her, and she’s usually out by 8:15 PM. She deserves a gold medal. (Elle, if you read this some day, you’re a champion baby!)

Elliott had her two month shots today, and Mike actually took the day off of work to be there with her at the appointment. (We’re very fortunate that he’s able to do that.) Every day (several times a day) I thank God that I’ve got such a wonderful husband, and seeing him as a father absolutely magnifies that feeling. I try to express how much I appreciate his support and sacrifice and hard work and positive, upbeat spirit, but I feel like saying it is never enough. I grow more in love with him every day, and it’s a prayer of mine that Elliott will find someone just like her father when she grows up. (The bar is already set very high for her future suitors.)

On Monday I wrote about a family planning/birth control method called the “Fertility Awareness Method.” Additionally, I posted a video about it on my YouTube channel. I haven’t gotten much heat about the blog, but the video, as videos often do, has stirred controversy. I’ve received criticism for not being supportive of methods of birth control that contain hormones, a stance which some attest could “discourage young girls from taking the pill.” I did my best to communicate that my desire for hormone-free birth control is strictly a personal decision, and that if women find a method that works for them that they should stick with it. On the flip side, and this is what I think irritated some folks, I also talked about how most methods of birth control can cause miscarriages in what would otherwise have been healthy pregnancies. I could have done a better job of reinforcing that any method of birth control is better than no birth control at all, but I feel that my decision to share the reality of the correlation between birth control and miscarriage was the right one. People would be best served to make informed decisions about their health, and I trust that after hearing their available options and the ramifications of each, people will choose responsibly, whatever that means to them. I suppose I’m also a fanatic of being well informed.

Looking forward, my husband and I have a date-night tonight! Wahoo! I don’t have a clue what we’ll do, but honestly, it doesn’t matter all that much. We could just walk and talk and hold hands and I’d be over the moon. My mother-in-law is pretty much the most awesome mother-in-law a girl could ask for, and she’s going to stay over so we can have a night out. We’re so blessed. (I’m worried that I sound like I’m bragging. Please know that I’m not.) Suggestions for date-night are welcomed and appreciated.

Hopefully you can take some time today to reflect on the ups and downs of the week. It’s cathartic, and it lays the foundation for the next week, so give it a shot. I hope you all have a fabulous and relaxing weekend! More to come on Monday…

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  1. I don’t think the blog or video deserved criticism like that. You didn’t boast to be a birth control guru or tell everyone to stop taking pills right now. At the end of the day if teen girls really want to have unprotected sex, they most likely will anyway.

    Reflections are wonderful. Definitely something I need to fit into my schedule.

    Have fun on the date night! I have no suggestions, except to suggest that you two should do something you share a personal interest in, which is a bit of a given.


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