If I’m going to be totally honest, Valentine’s Day was never my favorite holiday. Not even in my top five favorite holidays. I tend to dislike constructs that encourage awkward situations, and Valentine’s Day has to be the worst offender (April Fool’s Day is a close second). In the past, Valentine’s Day always made me uncomfortable, because it felt like I was forced to define relationships quickly and with certainty, or take a chance on someone I hadn’t thoughtfully considered, just to have a “Valentine.” What a racket. Looking back on it, I’d so much rather be “alone” (without a significant other) on Valentine’s Day, then go on some crappy date with a near-stranger. (I know, I know, I’m married, so that doesn’t mean much coming from me now.)
I often hear people joke and complain about how terrible married life is, and I’m thinking “you have got to be kidding me.” Firstly, that’s just sad, and it makes me wish I could solve all of their problems so they could enjoy marriage the way it’s meant to be enjoyed. Secondly I just want to grab them by the shoulders, shake them, and ask “do you REALLY miss dating?” When I remember back to all of the awkwardness, and all of the half-hearted, only-doing-this-because-we-have-to Valentine’s Days, I am so so SO happy to be married. (And, you know, my husband is pretty much the best, so that helps.)
These days I actually look forward to the “holiday” (though I still think it’s totally a racket), and I love knowing that I’ll get to share it with my two forever-loves.
Anyhoo, that’s all to say that, regardless of my status as an old-married-lady, I stand in solidarity with my single-sisters, and I hope hope HOPE you didn’t have some catastrophic FMLesque Valentine’s Day experience. I hope it was lovely, as a matter of fact!
As for us, we went out to ice cream as a family, using a gift-card that was given to Ellie by her grandparents (um, PERFECT gift, btw). I couldn’t get Ellie to sit still long enough to take a regular picture (oh, except the one where she’s glaring at me from behind the ice cream sign), so enjoy Ellie in all her blurriness!
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